STREET LIFE - motivations

The Hospital window

noreply@blogspirit.com (Dave ACENAS) — Wed, 15 Feb 2006 13:32:31 +0800

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.

He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."

Epilogue:

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.

"Today is a gift, that's why it is called the present."

The origin of this story is unknown, but it brings blessings to everyone who passes it on.

Are you a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime?

noreply@blogspirit.com (Dave ACENAS) — Sat, 15 Oct 2005 13:24:32 +0800

Pay attention to what you read. After you read this, you will know the reason. People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON . . .
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON. . .
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

And there are people for a LIFETIME . . .
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank them for being a part of your life.

Stop here and just SMILE if you don't want to do this last part:

Work like you don't need the money.

Love like you've never been hurt.

And dance like no one is watching.

Thank you!

The SCHULTZ Philosophy

noreply@blogspirit.com (Dave ACENAS) — Wed, 14 Sep 2005 13:21:21 +0800

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schultz, the creator of the "Peanuts" comic strip. You don't have to actually answer the questions. Just read straight through, and you'll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winner for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade's worth of World Series winners.

How did you do?
The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.

Easier?

The lesson: The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They are the ones that care.

"Don't worry about the world coming to an end today. It's already tomorrow in Australia." (Charles Schultz)

THINKING SUCCESS

noreply@blogspirit.com (Dave ACENAS) — Fri, 02 Sep 2005 12:45:00 +0800

by Tom Hopkins

Success in anything you want to accomplish in life begins with your thinking. The problem with too many people is that they don't think about what they're thinking. I once heard a speaker say, "You will become that which you think about most of the time." Those words have had a tremendous impact on me and on those with whom I've share them. I heard that statement at a time when I was just beginning to understand what self-improvement was all about. The basis of all self- help materials is that you must have a healthy self-image, or attitude about yourself, in order to succeed.

You see, your thoughts are reflected in your attitude. If you think about failure, rejection and pain, your attitude will be negative. You'll even have a tough time getting out of bed in the morning. How many prospects do you think will want to get involved with your product if you cannot express a positive attitude about what you do to earn your living? I guarantee you it won't be many.

In fact, if you think about those negatives frequently enough, that's probably what you'll become comfortable with. Then, it won't bother you to fail. You'll be thinking, "Yep, that's just what I expected to happen." And, as crazy as it may sound, acceptance of failure will become an accepted fact in your subconscious. At this point, I would suggest making a career adjustment because you won't be selling enough to keep food on your table.

To counteract acceptance of negativity, you must begin by consciously stopping those thoughts. Whenever you realize you're thinking negatively, worrying or feeling anxiety about facing rejection, think to yourself, "Hey, that's not what's going to happen." Then, force yourself to turn those thoughts around. Come up with a positive thought for each negative thought. You'll have to concentrate on this for a while, but eventually, those negative thoughts will have to face too tough a battle to stay in your mind and they'll go away.

At that point, you will be free to become one of the high achievers in your field. The training and support offered by your organization will become more valuable to you. You'll think more about giving service than receiving income. And, as I've stated many times before, the income you earn is little more than a scoreboard reflection of the service you give.

If you have any doubts about that statement, take notice of the top producers in your industry. They think achievement, service and professionalism. You can see it in their eyes. You can feel it when you meet them. They are comfortable only with achievement, recognition and acceptance. They are so uncomfortable with failure, that it, too, has become a motivator for them.

Once you have achieved a state of thinking positively you will believe more strongly in what you are doing, take the steps necessary to practice, drill and rehearse, and receive the tremendous rewards for doing so.

Salespeople are often confronted with spontaneous situations. And, selling is a very emotional business. So, when faced with the unexpected, the untrained, unpracticed ones throw all their training out the window and act on reflex. If your reflexes aren't aimed at serving clients and closing sales, you're sunk. The great ones practice thinking success so much that their attitude and knowledge carry them through situations that may not have been covered in training. Thinking success will help you; too, continue to radiate warmth, pride and knowledge during those spontaneous moments.

Cheers to your success!

Life is a Process of Finding Love

noreply@blogspirit.com (Dave ACENAS) — Mon, 29 Aug 2005 12:20:56 +0800

This is an English translation from a piece written by one famous Taiwanese author, Zhang Xiao Xian. Taken off Xiao Qiang's site. Quite true, poignant & something very thought provoking. It’s sad that life is often like this but we have to make do & hope that it will turn out for the best.

Every person will need to find four people in their life. First person is yourself; Second person is the one you love most, Third person is the one who love you most, And the fourth, is the one you spend the rest of your life with.

In life, firstly you will meet with the one you love most, and learn how love feels. Because you know how love feels, so you can find the

person who love you most. When you have experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you will then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with. Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person.

The one you love most doesn't love you. The one, who loves you most, is never the one you love most. And the one you spend your life with, is never the one you love most or the one who loves you most. He is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.

Which person are you in other people's life? - No person will purposely have a change of heart. At the point in time when he loves you, he

really loves you. But when he doesn't love you anymore, he really doesn't love you anymore. When he loves you, he can pretend that he doesn't.

Same goes, when he loves you no more, there is no way he can pretend he loves you. When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you must ask yourself if you still love him. If you also don't love him anymore, don't ever let him leave just to save your pride. If you still love him, you should wish him happiness, and hope that he will be with the one he loves most, not stop him from it. If you stop him from finding true happiness with the one he loves, it shows you already don't love him. And if you don't love him, what rights do you have to blame him for a change of heart?

Love is not possessive. If you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin. But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him become a permanent memory in your life. If you really love a person, you must love him for what he is. Love him for his good points, and the bad. You can wish for him to become like what you like him to be just because you love him. If he can change to become what you like him to be, you don t love him anymore.

Whenyou really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him, you only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you. Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test. If the relationship isn’t strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate...

WHY WEIGH, COUNT AND MEASURE?

noreply@blogspirit.com (Dave ACENAS) — Fri, 29 Jul 2005 12:55:20 +0800

by Jim Rohn

Three key words to remember: weigh, count and measure. Now why weigh, count and measure? To see what your results are from your activity, your attitude and your philosophy. If you find that the results are not to your liking there are only three places to look. Your philosophy needs to be fine-tuned; your attitude needs to be strengthened or your disciplines need extra skill. But that's it. Activity, attitude and philosophy create results.

Now on results I teach that life expects you to make measurable progress in reasonable time. But, you must be reasonable with time. You can't say to someone every five minutes, how are you doing now? That's too soon to ask for a count. Guy says, "I haven't left the building yet, give me a break!" Now you can't wait five years - that's too long. Too many things can go wrong waiting too long for a count to see how you're doing.

Here are some good time frames:

Number one - at the end of the day. You can't let more than a day go by without looking at some things and making progress. Old Testament says - if you are angry; try to solve it before the sun goes down. Don't carry anger for another day. It may be too heavy to carry. If you try to carry it for a week, it may drop you to your knees. So some things you must get done in a day.

Here's the next one - a week. We ask for an accounting of the week so we can issue the pay. And whatever you've got coming that's what you get; when the week is over. Now in business there are two things to check in the course of the week. Your activity count and your productivity count. Because activity leads to productivity we need to count both to see how we're doing.

My mentor taught me that success is a numbers game and very early he started asking me my numbers.

He asked, "How many books have you read in the last ninety days?"

I said, "Zero";

he said, "Not a good number."

He said, "How many classes have you attended in the last six months to improve your skills?"

And I said, "Zero."

He said, "Not a good number."

Then he said, "In the last six years that you've been working, how much money have you saved and invested?"

I said, "Zero"

and he said, "Not a good number."

Then here's what he said, "Mr. Rohn, if these numbers don't change your life won't change.

"But" he said, "If you'll start improving these numbers then perhaps you'll start to see everything change for you."

Success and results are a numbers game. John joins this little sales company. He's supposed to make 10 calls the first week just to get acquainted with the territory. So on Friday we call him in and say what? "How many calls?" He says, "Well." You say, "John, 'well' won't fit in the little box here. I need a number." Now he starts with a story. And you say, "John, the reason I made this little box so small is so a story won't fit. All I need is a number because if you give us the number we're so brilliant around here we could guess the story." It's the numbers that count. Making measurable progress in reasonable time.

Here's the best accounting. The accounting you make of yourself. Don't wait for the government to do it; don't wait for the company to do it. But you've got to add up some of your own numbers and ask, "Am I making the progress I want and will it take me where I want to go now and in the future?" You be the judge!

To Your Success!

A Mc Donald Story

noreply@blogspirit.com (Dave ACENAS) — Fri, 22 Jul 2005 12:53:07 +0800

A little old couple walked slowly into a McDonald's one cold winter evening. They looked out of place amid the young families and young couples eating there that night. Some of the customers looked admiringly at them. You could tell what the admirers were thinking:

"Look, there is a couple who has been through a lot together, probably for 60 years or more!"

The little old man walked up to the cash register, placed his order with no hesitation and then paid for their meal. The couple took a table near the back wall and started taking food off of the tray. There was one hamburger, one order of French fries and one drink. The little old man unwrapped the plain hamburger and carefully cut it in half. He placed one half in front of his wife. Then he carefully counted out the French fries, divided them in two piles and neatly placed one pile in front of his wife. He took a sip of the drink, and then his wife took a sip as the man began to eat his few bites. Again, you could tell what people around the old couple were saying.

"They were used to sharing everything."

Then the crowd noticed that the little old lady still hadn't eaten a thing. She just sat there watching her husband eat and occasionally sipped some of the drink. A young man came over and begged them to let him buy them another meal. The lady explained that no, they were used to sharing. As the little old man finished eating and was wiping his face neatly with a napkin, the young man could stand it no longer and asked again. After being politely refused again, he finally asked the little old lady,

"Ma'am, why aren't you eating? You said that you share everything. What is it that you are waiting for?"

She answered:

“THE TEETH”

3 Stories by Steve Jobs, CEO - Apple & Pixar

noreply@blogspirit.com (Dave ACENAS) — Mon, 20 Jun 2005 13:30:00 +0800

Bellow is the Text of the Commencement address by SteveJobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered atStanford on June 12, 2005. Read on, it’s worth your time:

Iam honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of thefinest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a collegegraduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That'sit. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

Idropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayedaround as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. Sowhy did I drop out?

Itstarted before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed collegegraduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. Shefelt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, soeverything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife.Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that theyreally wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call inthe middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do youwant him?" They said: "Of course." My biological motherlater found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that myfather had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign thefinal adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when myparents promised that I would someday go to college.

And17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that wasalmost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents'savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, Icouldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my lifeand no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I wasspending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So Idecided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was prettyscary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions Iever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classesthat didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

Itwasn't all-romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor infriends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy foodwith, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get onegood meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of whatI stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to bepriceless later on. Let me give you one example:

ReedCollege at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country.Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, wasbeautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't haveto take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learnhow to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varyingthe amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makesgreat typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtlein a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

Noneof this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But tenyears later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all cameback to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer withbeautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course incollege, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionallyspaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that nopersonal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would havenever dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers mightnot have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible toconnect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, veryclear looking backwards ten years later.

Again,you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect themlooking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connectin your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life,and karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made allthe difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I waslucky - I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in myparents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grownfrom just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation - the Macintosh -a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How canyou get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hiredsomeone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, andfor the first year or so things went well. But then our visions ofthe future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When wedid, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And verypublicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and itwas devastating.

Ireally didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let theprevious generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the batonas it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and triedto apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and Ieven thought about running away from the valley. But something slowlybegan to dawn on me - I still loved what I did. The turn of events atApple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was stillin love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn'tsee it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thingthat could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful wasreplaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure abouteverything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of mylife.

Duringthe next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company namedPixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife.Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, ToyStory, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In aremarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I retuned to Apple, and thetechnology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance.And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'mpretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired fromApple. It awful tasted medicine, but I guess the patient needed it.Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith.I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what Idid. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for yourwork as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part ofyour life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what youbelieve is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love whatyou do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As withall matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like anygreat relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

WhenI was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live eachday as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right."It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I havelooked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were thelast day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" Andwhenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, Iknow I need to change something.

Rememberingthat I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to helpme make the big choices in life. Because almost everything - allexternal expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure -these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is trulyimportant. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I knowto avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are alreadynaked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

Abouta year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in themorning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even knowwhat a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a typeof cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longerthan three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get myaffairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means totry to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years totell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything isbuttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. Itmeans to say your goodbyes.

Ilived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy,where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and intomy intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells fromthe tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that whenthey viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started cryingbecause it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that iscurable with surgery. I had the surgery

andI'm fine now.

Thiswas the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope it's the closest Iget for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this toyou with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectualconcept:

Noone wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to getthere. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has everescaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely thesingle best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears outthe old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday nottoo long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away.Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your timeis limited; so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trappedby dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking.Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice.And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything elseis secondary.

WhenI was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog,which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellownamed Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it tolife with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personalcomputers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters,scissors, and Polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperbackform, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, andoverflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewartand his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and thenwhen it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was themid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was aphotograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourselfhitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words:"Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message asthey signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished thatfor myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

StayHungry. Stay Foolish.

Thankyou all very much.

YOU ARE A NATURAL BORN RISK-TAKER!

noreply@blogspirit.com (Dave ACENAS) — Thu, 02 Jun 2005 12:45:00 +0800

By Liza Jimenez, M.D.

Thinkof the little child who sees a set of stairs for the very first time. What goesthrough that little one's mind when they look up at that amazing sight? If youknow children, then you know they would think, "Wow! I've got to get tothe top!" They wouldn't say, "I've got to get to the top! But, wait.It might be too risky. What would my mom say? I might get in trouble. What would my friends say back at the sandbox?They might judge me. What would happen if I fell? I might get hurt. No. It'stoo risky. I'll just stay right down here where it's safe."

Yeah, right.Like that would ever be said by an 18 month old!

A young childwould see the staircase. Look up to the top. Say, "I've got to get to thetop!" And he would begin!

Well, myfriend, you know this little child. This little one is YOU! You were once 18months old. You once had all the bold, daring, imaginative zest for life! Askyour parents what you were like when you were young. It is in your very natureto risk. So, what happened? And how do you get this abandoned excitement back?

Well, I believeLIFE happened. And somewhere along the way you lost your natural, risk takingability. However, the truth is, if at one time you had it, then you can get itback! Call on your inborn risk-taking ability and take the first step of yourstaircase of success!

You are aNatural Born Risk-Taker!

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The 10/90 Amazing Principle!

noreply@blogspirit.com (Dave ACENAS) — Sat, 14 May 2005 15:05:00 +0800

It will change your life (at leastthe way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is madeup of what happens to you. 90% is decided by how you react. What does thismean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop thecar from breaking down; the plane being late in arriving, which throws ourwhole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control overthis 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By yourreaction. You cannot control a red light., but YOU can control how you react.Let's use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup ofcoffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.What happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. Shebreaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticizeher for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.

A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Backdownstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfastand get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leaveimmediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.Because you are late, you drive 110 km/h in a 80 km/h speed limit. After a15-minute delay and throwing $300 & some demerit points (traffic fine)away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without sayinggoodbye.

You arrive at the office 20 minutes late, because of how you reacted in themorning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is obviously D. You had no control over what happened with thecoffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and shouldhave happened....

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,"It's ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbinga towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, youcome back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting onthe bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you go to work.You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss commentson how good the day you are having. Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why?Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of whathappens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some ways toapply the 90/10 principle:

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attackroll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affectyou. React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction couldresult in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do youreact if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on thesteering wheel and hurt your own fingers? Do you curse? Does your blood pressurerocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later atwork? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and donot worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will workout. Use your worrying energy
and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going tomangle your schedule for the day.

Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control overwhat is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passengers. Whyget stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will losenothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. It seems simple common sense but very fewapply this principle! The result? Millions of people are suffering fromundeserved stress, court trials, problems and heartaches. They never seem to bea success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantlyhappening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships.Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is notenjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seemscruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can bedifferent! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It will change yourlife!